It’s been a crazy few weeks and I haven’t gotten down to blogging much..not even about our recent holiday trip. But a conversation this evening with the hubby, propelled me to write this post.
I was reminded of how people judge the things parents do, yes even people who are parents and perhaps especially people who are parents.
I am definitely guilty of it. It’s so easy to judge another parent for choosing to do things differently from you.
Honestly being a parent is a tough enough job without having the world judge you and fellow parents can be the worst critics.
- We judge when a parent leaves work on time to be with their kid.
- We judge when a parent works late and doesn’t have time for their kid.
- We judge when a parent sends their child to school when the child is sick.
- We judge when a parent takes child mc for the nth time because the child is sick.
- We judge when a mother chooses to be a stay home mum.
- We judge when a mother chooses to be a full time working mum.
- We judge when parents choose to put their kids in full day childcare.
- We judge when parents choose to homeschool.
- We judge when parents are competitive about school, school work/ school load.
- We judge when parents choose to bring their kids overseas for a holiday during the school term.
- We judge when parents sign their kids up for countless enrichment classes and make them study all the time.
- We judge when parents don’t sign their kids up for any enrichment classes and allow them to play all the time.
- We judge when parents allow their kids to use electronic devices.
- We judge when parents don’t allow their kids to use electronic devices.
- We judge when parents allow their kids to co-sleep with them.
- We judge when parents make their kids sleep on their own.
- We judge when parents choose to stop at 1.
- We judge when parents choose to have more than 1.
I think this list could go on for quite abit and I’m sure many of you would have quite a few things to add as well..
My point really is we have to learn to stop judging each other. The world of parenting is hard enough as it is. We don’t need to prove or justify our parenting choices to people but it sure would make it a sweeter journey if we learn to stop imposing our views on each other.
After all, we all really just want what’s best for our children and family, within our own personal circumstances.
And if we all can just learn to be supportive or at least understanding of each other, the parenting world will be a less daunting place.